After we experience trauma, we can more readily go into flight/fight, or shut down mode. After playing chess with my husband, I've been encouraged to think differently about staying in a defense/fear mode, or taking a more helpful, mobile offensive approach. This is also a reminder that we can combine spiritual, Christ-based strategies with psychological strategies. Why not use both?! For credit to the right theory/person sake, "Noticing" is a part of mindfulness and used in Dialectical Behavioral therapy and other therapies. Thoughts on the social engagement system comes from studying the Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges, and thoughts on "Name it to tame it" come from Dr. Dan Seigal.